Hello Reader,

I've been quieter lately. If you're still reading these letters, I really appreciate you. Between two little ones and building in the background, I’ve had to be intentional about where my energy goes. But I plan to start sending these more frequently starting next year.

I'm writing this from the room where I grew up. My wife and I decided to spend Christmas at my parents' again. Bittersweet memories here. This place used to feel safe, yet a lot like a cage.

I read dozens of self-help books from this room. From The Secret and The Power of Your Subconscious Mind to Think and Grow Rich and The Way of the Superior Man.

Yet despite all that knowledge, despite new awareness, positive thinking, affirmations, and manifestation techniques, I found myself stuck in the comfort of this room. It was good enough. Safe enough. Not painful enough to force me out. That's the trap I see so many in. Comfort that's just bearable enough to keep you there.

The Pattern I Keep Seeing

A few months ago, I wrote about people feeling burnt out and stuck in their personal growth journey despite years of inner work.

This week, it came up again. Not in personal growth but in professional life, yet still the same root cause. I noticed a close friend I met on X deleted his account and all his other social profiles. He disappeared. No way of contacting him.

Despite never meeting in person, we became friends. And it makes me sad knowing I’ll probably never see him again. Over the last three years, most people I connected with were aspiring or early-stage entrepreneurs (coaches, freelancers, creators). Over 90% disappeared quietly. Some gave up within months, others within a year or two.

Why is it that conscious, heart-led entrepreneurs seem to disappear so often despite all the inner work, despite being so aware? Why is it that some people can't seem to change their patterns, whether in personal life or professional life?

The two, personal life and business, are connected. Most people only change when staying the same becomes more painful than the uncertainty of change. And often they don't, because they won't let themselves fully feel the sadness and quiet despair that could actually wake them up.

Almost seven years ago, my ex-girlfriend broke up with me. The one I'd planned to settle down with. And that's when I realized I didn't even want to settle down and live the way others do. It was only after I allowed myself to mourn the wasted time trying to fit into someone else's expectations that I told myself I was done living for others' approval.

That's the first step: feeling what's actually there instead of distracting yourself with another book, another course, another workshop.

The second step? Willingness, as they call it in The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, combined with taking full responsibility. What Napoleon Hill called "burning desire" in Think and Grow Rich. What Lester Levenson called "desire", the key to transformation (not to be confused with the desire coming from lack, as he later refined his ideas).

What Most People Miss

Most entrepreneurs don't need more knowledge, frameworks, or systems. They need to break through what's blocking them.

But most approaches miss this: your limiting beliefs: "I'm not good enough," "I'm scared of rejection," "Who am I to do this?" aren't just thoughts in your head you can overcome by pushing through with positive thinking.

They're psychosomatic imprints in your nervous system.

When you're about to take a bigger step, show up fully, or step into a role that feels too big, the doubt and impostor syndrome creep in. That familiar contraction in your body, that familiar pull to stay small, to prepare just a little bit longer.

That's the belief, alive in your body, fueled by the emotions you're avoiding. That's why becoming aware of limiting beliefs isn't enough. That's why positive thinking doesn't work for most people.

Understanding this intellectually doesn't change it. You have to fully feel it. And then release the emotional charge fueling the belief. When you do, the belief dissolves on its own. The self-sabotage stops.

What I've Been Building

A few months ago, I mentioned I've been working on things in the background. I'm finally building something I kept putting off for more than a year: a YouTube channel.

I told myself:

• I'm better at writing anyway, why video?
• When I hit 10,000 followers on X
• I don't have time for this

But I realized those weren't the main reasons. It was also about fear. Fear of being seen, fear of failure. Today, almost 7,500 people follow me on X.

This week, I announced my YouTube channel on Facebook. Now my family knows. Old friends. People who remember me before all this. That's the fear I couldn't face 3 years ago when I first started writing on X.

The first video is a Time Scarcity Release Meditation. If you feel like you don't have enough time, if you're constantly rushed or overwhelmed, this will help you release the pressure and find more peace. You can watch it here.

The audio and video quality aren't perfect yet, I'm still figuring out lighting and being comfortable in front of the camera. But waiting until everything felt ready would've meant never starting. I'll improve as I go.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Don't hesitate to reply to this email with any feedback or questions.

I'll be recording more release meditations on different topics: anxiety, self-doubt, money scarcity, plus educational videos on the usual topics I write about regularly:

• How to stop procrastinating and start acting despite fear
• Building inner stability and capacity to handle tension
• Transforming the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck
• Overcoming self-doubt and impostor syndrome
• Releasing anxiety and tension from your body
• Working with emotions that block your growth

And many other topics around personal transformation and growth.

If these topics resonate with you, and especially if you constantly feel like you don't have enough time, feel overwhelmed, or are always rushing, I believe this first video will give you a different perspective and help you find more ease.

And if you feel like you need personal support to break through what's been blocking you, I work 1-on-1 with entrepreneurs to overcome the limiting beliefs and release the emotions keeping them stuck. You can learn more here. Or book a call to find out if and how I can support you.

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas with your loved ones and a peaceful start to the new year.

Talk soon,

Bo